Fuck Yeah Trans Fats

Me: I’m looking for fashion advice as a short, chubby, curvy person with big hips and decent sized chest. Been losing weight and clothes don’t fit any more. I don’t want to wear baggy clothes, would like to hide curves while being stylish, and having clothes that fit my big hips/narrow shoulders.

First reply: 

I know this is a totally jerk-worthy thing to say, but if you can’t exercise it off or you’re not willing to wear baggy clothes, have you considered lipo?

Me:

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Fatspiration Fridays?

There hasn’t been much in the way of action around these parts and it would be fantastic to get some things going. I’ve decided to add the tag “Fatspiration Friday” into the tag box for submissions. Some of you may know what “thinspiration” might be…it’s images of thin folks often used as a “gosh, I wish I were tiny” boost of body negativity. To counter-act this, I think we need some fatspiration.

Fatspiration Fridays will be dedicated to YOU. A picture of yourself that you feel proud of. Meaningful quotes that help you. Maybe writing about how you’ve either come to acceptance, or are working on accepting yourself? Drawings, poetry, what ever inspires you either related to being fat or trans (or ya know…both).

Just tag it with the Fatspiration Friday tag.

If you have any suggestions or ideas of things we can do that you would like to see, feel free to reblog this with what it is you want. 

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2398) I am so jealous of guys with tiny chest that can hide it easily, whereas I’m struggling with mine that will never look flat. I’m chubby but not fat enough to pretend it’s manboobs.

(Source: ftmconfessions, via ftmconfessions)

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Help Please! Binding Pain

I’m having a horrible morning and I was hoping that maybe this community can help me out. I’m a fat trans guy and have been on T a little over a year. It is a sunny day today and I want to go enjoy the weather but my back hurts so bad from binding that I don’t know what to do. Right now my thought is to simply not bind, but my chest is very large and clearly visible. So I guess I will layer and try not to notice people stare at me more than normal.

My question is this. What can I do to be comfortable not binding at all? Better yet, how can I bind less tightly. I wear a tri-top 3x from Underworks, and it is the only binder I have found that fits me. Do you know of any companies who make anything less tight? Is there a way I can modify my binders to be less tight?

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AN IDEA!

zerofailure:

So, today was like any other day (until my brain was like OMG AWESOME IDEA). I was sitting at my desk on the internets, listening to music and the Cazwell/Peaches song Unzip Me, a super sexy song was playing. For some reason I started thinking of the Morningwood video for Take Off Your Clothes and the two videos for Unzip Me. The Morningwood video features user submissions of themselves (mostly thin white cis folks) stripping while dancing around and occasionally singing/lip syncing to the song. One of the videos for Unzip Me has muscular/beefy cis men in their underwear doing whatever people do in a Cazwell video…and it just all got me thinking.

Where are all the fantastic fat trans people in these videos? And maybe I should create a collab project of sexy chubby trans folks dancing to a hot song in the least amount of clothing they feel comfortable in!

So…if you would like to be part of this project, just reply to this message and I’ll try to form this into something a bit more put together. 

Things that will be needed: a sexy dance song, possibly something on paper showing that those involved are of age, people dancing their sexy asses off!

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Being stripped of your right to feel hurt

desadesfatgirl:

fuckyeahprettyfatchicks:

So, I have to get this out before I go to bed because I’m pretty annoyed right now. Someone over on lj just made a post pretty much along the lines of “I’m lucky to be skinny and stay skinny no matter what, so don’t you dare make me feel bad about that by being offended when I say something offensive about weight, intentionally, or not. Grow up. If it’s such a big issue to you, lose weight or stop whining.” That’s pretty much the gist of the post. The person admits and is fully aware that their attitude is problematic, as well, but makes no move towards correcting it. Practically, feels in the right to have this attitude.

And I just can’t help feeling that this is a very common viewpoint. We’re the ones who who need to grow up and not be offended when someone says something offensive/hurtful about our or generally higher weight. Because being offended equals offending skinny people. This totally ties in with someone else I read here on tumblr recently who pretty much maintained that skinny people should not be robbed of their “inherent skinny-privilege” or something like that. But that’s even a different post and I’m rambling.

But… Do WE need to grow up, or do they? Isn’t it the healthy human reaction to feel bad about having hurt someone’s feelings? Isn’t it the grown up thing to apologise for that whether it was intentional or not?

How many times do we hear that we should grow a thicker skin? When I was younger someone told me that my fat should qualify as this “thicker skin.” Well, contrary to popular belief, our fat does not ward of hurtful comments. But then, who’s to be surprised by this stance in a world where it seems to be perfectly alright to ignore that we are living, breathing and feeling human beings.

**Owners note: No! We shouldn’t have to grow up because those comments shouldn’t be there in the first place. Thick skin my ass. Unless my being overweight directly affects you, it’s none of your business, and you shouldn’t be insulting me about it. Especially if I’m happy with myself, and you already knew that. Who are you to tear me down? It’s no ones business what we want ourselves to look like and, vice versa. Like i said, do what you want with yourself, as long as you’re not hurting/insulting anyone in the process.

Thanks for sharing this with us, sweetie!!

Oh don’t get me fucking started…

(via genderbitch)

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